When I write this, you may ask me if I have any experience in love, but to be clear, I do not.
I’m just telling you this because I want you to know that it’s true. Whenever I am asked about my love life, I feel that it is wrong to ask about it. It is rude and cruel to ask.
First, let’s talk about relationships. In the first place, relationships are usually based on mutual compromise. But what about today? It is common for people to ignore any consideration for the other person, and to deny their own personality with one-sided arguments. I’m sorry, but if you deny your personality, I won’t go out with you.
Besides, they say that unattractive people don’t make any effort, but what kind of effort do attractive men make? First of all, you can’t rely on what they call “effort” at all. The theory is that they make it happen without any effort, and only about one out of billion people make a real effort to make their love life successful.
Have you ever heard of “Merabian’s Law”? Merabian’s Law is a fact-based theory that describes the percentage of people who recognize a person when they first meet. It is said that visual information (appearance, facial expression, gesture, gaze, etc.) accounts for 55%, auditory information (quality of voice, speed of speech, loudness of voice, tone of voice, etc.) accounts for 38%, and verbal information (meaning of words, content of speech, etc.) accounts for 7%. This is true not only in business and social situations, but also in romantic relationships.
The reason for this is that people decide whether or not to go out with someone based on their first impression. Even if you improve your posture and background to make yourself more attractive, if your appearance is not of a high standard, you will not be rejected or taken seriously. If you are good-looking, you will be approached without even trying, and if you are not, you will be rejected even if you try hard. One woman said, “Most of the men who approach me are bad guys. Isn’t that exactly the right thing to say?
What’s more, when they see a good-looking guy, they smile and respond, but when they see a not-so-good-looking guy, they call him “creepy,” “annoying,” “sexual harasser,” and “stalker”. If they are ever approached, it is only by solicitors, chillers, or gay men.
This is not a matter of “thinking” or “feeling” in a naïve and naïve way. It is not too much to assert, but rather too little to say. This is “the fact”, “the reality” and “the truth”. It’s not a matter of good or bad, it’s nothing more than a golden rule that can’t be described in any other way and has absolutely no room for doubt.